You may remember a couple of weeks ago I mentioned watching Brené Brown’s Call to Courage of Netflix. I’ve been thinking about what she said so much I’ve watched it again!
We all care about what other people think (even if we try to kid ourselves that we don’t) but Brené says that we need to choose who we listen to, who we take feedback from.
“A lot of cheap seats in the arena are filled with people who never venture onto the floor. They just hurl mean-spirited criticisms and put-downs from a safe distance. The problem is, when we stop caring what people think and stop feeling hurt by cruelty, we lose our ability to connect. But when we’re defined by what people think, we lose the courage to be vulnerable. Therefore, we need to be selective about the feedback we let into our lives. For me, if you’re not in the arena also getting your ass kicked, I’m not interested in your feedback.”
I LOVE THIS SO MUCH! Don’t let yourself be criticised by people in the cheap seats. Before you take on board feedback ask yourself whether the person is in the arena with you?